When I was growing up I believed I was just never meant to win. Every competition I entered, every raffle, every lottery ticket I bought- I just never won.
The story I told myself was “I never win”. I would buy the ticket already telling myself in my head “you know you are not going to win right?” And guess what- I didn’t.
You would think I got used to the feeling of loosing. That over 30 years of experience would have taught me to except this as my reality and be ok with it.
But I didn’t and every time I lost I felt awful, I like to win, I like to be the best at every thing I do, I am a recovering perfectionist- remember.
When things don’t go right for us, even though we may not like the outcome, we still find ourselves doing the same thing over and over hoping for a new outcome.
I have news for you- THAT DOES NOT WORK! I know I tried!
But this week things were different, last year at the Zone Event- a yearly event put on by my business coach- we had an endurance challenge requiring us to hold a ball out in the air, last three standing won prizes. I did not win. I was disqualified some where near the middle for something I did not even do- I was mad, really mad! But I made a promise to my self “next year I will win”.
Over the last year I visualized myself winning, I worked on my mental focus trough my marathon training and noticed where I was giving up on myself. Every time I thought of the event I said to myself – this year I will win, and I would let it go. I did not obsess about how I would win, I just put out to the universe that I would.
And then on Tuesday night it was time, this year it was a team challenge, it required all of us to win. For a moment I wondered how this would impact me- I trained for me, I did not train with my randomly selected group.
But something amazing happened, I had others in my group who had made the same commitment to themselves, and before we started we shared with each other why we wanted to win. And long story short and amazing team work later- WE DID!
I had manifested in my life the power of community, working together, dedication and commitment and positive thinking. I also gained valuable training for my business I really need !
This made me think about parenting our daughters, how often to do we the same thing hoping for a different outcome?
How often do you try to start a conversation with your daughter and get shut down? Try to give her advice and get rolling eyes? Do something to support her only to be told you did the WRONG thing?
What will you do THIS YEAR to get the outcome you want?
If you want your reality to change you have to change what you are doing! If you are having trouble communicating with your daughter and what you are doing is not working, learn new skills of communicating, do it differently – it is the only way to get a different result.
Share in the comments what you are doing that is working and you could use my help with
