Do you live in the drama? Does your daughter? I never thought I did. While my life has been full of events that some would call dramatic, from physical injury. Technical mishaps to loosing loved ones, I never saw these as dramatic. To me they were just what was happening, they happened, I dealt with it and moved on. In fact, when they did happen, I would do all I could to play it down as “not a big deal” and if I could I would simply disappear because I did not want the spotlight shone on me.
Over the years as I started doing some personal growth work, shifting my energy and opening up again, I thank god graduated for constantly injuring myself regularly. I thought I had moved on. In the last few months as I have divided into deep, once again looking inward at who I am, what my fears are, how I am showing up in the world and more, I realized what I had been denying for years. I was a drama queen. Not the regular kind that makes a big deal out of everything, is loud, dramatic, crying, screaming, fill in the blank….. I was the quite drama queen.
Unconsciously I was drawn in to my life dramatic event because they brought me love and attention. Things I had trouble asking for as a teen, but as everyone does desperately need.
To the outside I was good looking, popular, successful in what I chose to be, surrounded by people. But my inner pain made sure I put many walls around myself thinking this would protect me from my very sensitive self. So I was always at service and never asking for anything in return. Except we all need love and attention.
I share this with not because I enjoy putting my hurt and past on the table open for all to see.
I share because I want you to look at the teen girl in your life.
What she wants more than anything is your love and attention and she will do whatever she can to get it. So for some that will be creating a lot of noise in a lot of different ways, from simple noise or drama to require your attention. For others, it will be a lot more subtle. Her grades may begin to drop, or the opposite she may seem just a little too put together and perfect.
No teen has their act together – they are teens, the question is who is getting to see that side- are you?
